Posts from — October 2011
Things that aren’t pretty: Failing to say “please” and “thank you”. Slamming doors in a person’s face. Interrupting and talking over others. Speaking loudly on your cell phone in public places. Cutting in front of others in line. Smacking your gum. Failing to excuse yourself when doing or saying something inappropriate. Flipping over dinner tables à la Teresa Giudice…
Suffice it to say, there is nothing quite as unattractive and unstylish as bad manners and lack of social graces – and if anybody understands this, it’s the empress of etiquette Emily Post.
Born in Baltimore, Maryland on this day in 1872, Emily enjoyed a privileged childhood and as a young adult wrote society columns. She put manners on the map when she penned her first book (a best seller), Etiquette – the Blue Book of Social Usage, in 1922, followed by a string of other manuals.
Emily would be horrified by the lack of manners and decency in society today – from failure to R.S.V.P. and skipping introductions – to the crude insults and brash behavior exhibited on the fields of little league games, in rush hour traffic, on the streets, in various public venues, and in the social media universe.
Emily emphasized that social good form isn’t simply knowing which fork to use for salad, but how to treat others graciously in daily life. So rather than rant about rudeness and ugly behavior, let’s do our part and promote the pretty, please.
Gracious Beyonce shines over rude Kanye
In the meantime I thought it would be fun to share some gems from Ms. Post’s etiquette advice from back in the day, 1922…
When making an introduction – the younger person is always presented to the older or more distinguished, but a gentleman is always presented to a lady, even though he is an old gentleman of great distinction and the lady a mere slip of a girl. No lady is ever, except to the President of the United States, a cardinal, or a reigning sovereign, presented to a man.
Conversing – to say you have read a book and then seemingly to understand nothing of what you have read, proves you a half-wit.
Fashion – one does not have to be dowdy as an alternative to being too richly dressed. It is not unheard of for a New York woman to spend a third of her husband’s income on clothes.
Vulgarity - the woman of uncultivated taste has no more sense of moderation than the Queen of the Cannibals.
What your clothes portray – If you are much stared at, what sort of a stare do you usually meet? Is it bold, or mocking, or is it merely that people look at you wistfully? If the first, change your manner; if the second, wear more conventional clothes; if the third, you may be left as you are. But be sure of your diagnosis of this last.
When golfing – shirt-waists do not sound very conservative, but they are mercifully conserving to arms sensitive to sunburn. Young Mrs. Gilding, whose skin is as perishable as it is lovely, always wears orange on the golf course.
Formal wear for men – your handkerchief must be white; gloves (at opera or ball) white; flower in buttonhole (if any) white. Wear patent leather pumps, shoes or ties, and plain black silk socks, and leave your rubbers—if you must wear them, in the coat room.
Etiquette of Engaged People – often it so happens that engaged people are very little together, because he is away at work, or for other reasons. Rather than sit home alone, she may continue to go out in society, but she must avoid being with any one man more than another… It always gives gossip a chance to see an engaged girl sitting out dances with any particular man, and slander is never far away if any evidence of ardor creeps into their regard.
As far as common decency, an Emily Post-ism that still rings true today: “No one should do anything that can either annoy or offend the sensibilities of others.” Society may be changing, but good manners, common courtesy and gracious behavior are forever in fashion.
Now keep it classy, ladies.
October 27, 2011 No Comments
Tim Gunn can always put a smile on my face. Check out some of his best moments – I dare you not to smile.
October 26, 2011 No Comments
“You’ve made my life so glamorous, you can’t blame me for feeling amorous…” ~’S Wonderful, Funny Face
If you like Tory Burch and Kate Spade plus a splash of Jonathan Adler, then you will love, love, love C. Wonder.
The brainchild of Tory’s former hubby, Chris Burch, C. Wonder is the latest preppy-chic boutique to grace and brighten the lives of glam girls who can’t wait to get their well-manicured hands on its delicious goodies.
Chris Burch with Solange Knowles
C. Wonder appears to have all the charm, whimsy, and joie de vivre of Kate and Tory, with a dash of its own philosophy. According to Racked NY, the company is “re-imagining retail with an experience that most women never imagined could exist—extraordinary products at an incredible value with luxury service in an inspiring environment—plus a little unexpected ‘wow.’”
The cheerful, colorful, quality merchandise boasts price tags under $100, and includes oodles of clothing, shoes, jewelry, accessories, and home décor. Keeping with its customer-centric vibe, an in-store monogramming service is also available.
The first shiny happy shop opened in Soho this weekend, and three more will open this year in New York: Westchester, Garden State Plaza and Roosevelt Field. Twenty more boutiques are slated to open across the country in 2012.
From the Kelly green C-logo’d doors to the delicious dressing room décor, it’s no wonder C. Wonder is touted as “the ultimate new shopping experience for women.” Who doesn’t love personalized music and lighting settings in the dressing room? You had me at “Dim & Flirty” and “Bright & Cool”.
You can get your fix online soon at the C. Wonder website, launching “sometime this fall”. Quel tease! An exact date would be helpful. Don’t fret, pretties – I’m on it like bees to honey and will let you know when to get your C. Wonderful on.
Photos courtesy of Racked NY and SheFinds.
October 25, 2011 No Comments
Happy Birthday, Ryan Reynolds!
“Are you stalking me? Because that would be super.”
~Ryan Reynolds, the Sexiest Man Alive
October 23, 2011 No Comments
You could plan a party around this fluffy frock from Alberta Ferretti!
“The contact with customers is very important to me, designers shouldn’t stay closed up in their studios.” ~Alberta Ferretti
October 20, 2011 No Comments